Q) I have a friend
that wanted to be a
rock star, but it never happened, yet he was quiet talented. He says he
is happy, but somehow I notice people who achieve dreams have a
different kind of happiness than people like him. What do I do so my
dreams aren't defeated? -Jay
process. His (or her) dreams may develop later on. And, you
could be right - your friend may carry some sadness about not achieving
stardom. I can relate to that - I was in a rock band, and I wanted to
make it big.
came a time in my life when I faced struggle. Out of my
commitment to change, I discovered things about myself and about life
that I perhaps would have never found had I become a rock star. Perhaps
my tape series, derived
from much personal learning has helped some person who I don't even
know. Who knows - maybe that's a greater accomplishment for me than
selling a million records.
say that your friend missed the mark, and maybe you're right.
You could say that wealthy stars have more satisfaction in life, and
you could be right. But I don't think that conclusions about people's
success can be so sweeping and formulated. There is a tremendous amount
of variety in our lives.
increase your success, do what you think is best. If that doesn't
work, re-think. Read on - I'll show you
how your thinking maps out your course to success.
What are the spiritual rules to becoming as
rich as fast as possible? It scares me that money can't be made by wanting
it like I do.
and since you used the word
"spiritual", I'm going to use the word "God", but you can substitute
"Universe" or "Higher Power" or whatever you like - I'm not pushing
religion here. My answer is: God says "Yes" to
all our thoughts. If you "want" to be
rich, God says
"Yes! I'm behind your thoughts all the way. You now WANT to be
rich even more than before." And then guess what? You WANT to
be rich. God is not a bigot. God supports All people and All thoughts.
"I want to be rich and I don't care who I step on to get
there." God will say, "Yes! I'm behind you all the way. You now WANT to
be rich even more and you CARE LESS EVEN THAN BEFORE!"
only problem with "less-caring" thinking is that there are
some Universal principles that you cannot change which will always be
going on. A biggie is "What goes around, comes around." So the less you
care, the less caring will come back to you.
Catch: This law doesn't
necessarily mean that if you cheat someone out of a deal, that someone
is going to cheat *you* out of a deal at some point. The law never said
that what comes back to you will be exactly the same. If you cause
financial misery to someone, it is misery that will come back to
you.... but not necessarily financial misery. You might be fabulously
wealthy, but then one of your loved ones might die unexpectedly.... or
your significant partner may leave you.... or whatever.
is no set time frame for when these occurrences happen. It
could be sooner, it could be later. Connected to this law is the law
that causing pain for one causes pain for all. Causing joy for one
causes joy for all. We are all connected.
the "Perfect End Result". If you want to
change your thoughts so
that you become wealthy, change them to "I provide a great service to
many who benefit from what I provide." God will then say, "Yes! I'm
behind your thoughts all the way. You provide a great service and many
lives are benefiting." The financial reward will then happen
automatically, without any "wanting" from you. What you think, you
create. Observe what's so, and do what works.
I get what you're saying. One of my goals
is to start a camp for children with disabilities. But I can't see how
starting that camp will make me any money legally.
automatic self-defeating thinking is? You state your goal, and
then you state that you can't see it happening!
And then God says, "Yes! I'm behind your thoughts all the way.
You now CAN'T see how starting that camp will make you any money...
even more than before!" And then the camp
happen. It's defeated even before it's begun.
changing your thoughts. When you catch yourself in a "can't,
won't, couldn't, shouldn't, it'll never.." pattern, simply add a
solution-oriented idea to the previous thought. You'll find it's
amazing what will change for you. Teach others to change their
thoughts. What you share, you keep.
friends has been working on his dream project for 3 years
funded with spare cash. He's now negotiating with a major company for a
World-Wide deal. He's had unstoppable intentions from the moment he
Important: Notice if your
thoughts and your intentions differ. If you think positive but your
intentions are connected to anger or resentment, God will support the
stronger part of you. So if you think positive about your children's
camp, but you have a stronger intention to be wealthy, God will support
you in keeping your money.
But I will have to pay to start the camp,or
someone will have to pay!
You see? Looks to me
like you have a stronger intention to
stay rich than to start the camp. Study your obstacles. They tell you a
lot about your intentions. You can either BE a person who buys the
obstacles, or you can BE a person who gets past them. The BEING
creates better DOING, and the better doing creates better HAVING.
Thanks for your support.
After a year or so, Jay wrote back in Jan. 2001 sharing about his
Out of nowhere I got a moderate role in a movie based on a long story
despite having non acting experience, talent or future. It's a remake
of "Rollerball" and it stars Chris Klein and LLCoolJ. I play Chris
Klien's buddy till... [you'll have to find out].
That is terrific!
Sounds like you're creating a "future."
It is interesting that somehow ultra ultra strange opportunities come
out of nowhere!
Yep, I know what you
I just ended up acting by a fluke. I never thought about serving the
movie going public or selling anything or acting, but thanks to my SAG
contract I will be getting paid at least a few k in residuals for the
next few years.
I will wonder how I will find an opportunity to make a few million
within ten years.
Sounds like you're on
the right track, and the
opportunities will continue to find you if you keep doing the job of
putting yourself on the right track in the right place and following
through with the right attitude.
The objective of the
game would be
to explore ways to make it possible for anybody and everybody in the
human family to enjoy the total earth without any human interfering
with any other human and without any human gaining advantage at the
expense of another.
-R. Buckminster Fuller
Vestman is committed to the
of all children everywhere.